Online dating etiquette first message
Regardless of what Anita’s mother thinks, you and your husband should determine whether you can afford (and are willing) to help defray any further costs over the next six weeks, if for no other reason than that you want Anita and her baby to be well.
If you cannot afford it, and if you believe it will not put either of them in harm’s way, your best option may be to encourage her to seek resources from the financial assistance center at the hospital where she plans to give birth.
Those conversations may feel heavy simply by the nature of the topic you’re discussing, but that doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong in telling your own story.
If you want to share some of the broad strokes of your history without feeling obligated to answer follow-up questions or go into more detail than you’re comfortable with, you can say, “I’d rather not go into this at length right now, but it was a really difficult time for me, and I’m very happy to be out of my abusive marriage.
It’s heartening to see that you understand this as a personally painful but acceptable outcome—ultimately, it’s for the best that Anita does not feel financially pressured into giving up a child that she wants to parent.
They are both star athletes, honor students, nondrinkers, and really nice kids.
I love it that they are starting this new adventure in the dating scene together.
He is a year older than she is and occasionally drives her around town. What, if anything, should I say to her about traffic stops?
It is worth having, regardless of whom your daughter is dating, and I’m glad you’re prepared to start now.
Dear Prudence, My husband and I have been preparing to adopt a baby from “Anita” for six months.
The only problem is her escalating interest in the cast of a television show, particularly one male actor.